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Toni (Pfleider) Bender

Toni (Pfleider) Bender, 64, of Kingfisher, passed away peacefully at her home, surrounded by her family, April 18, 2022 after a hard fight against cancer. Toni was born August 12, 1957 to Bud and Janene Pfleider in Alva, Oklahoma. She graduated from Alva High School in 1975 and was recently welcomed as an honorary Shattuck Indian. On November 14, 1977 Toni ran off to Pampa, Texas to marry Greg Bender. From this union came their two children, Laci and BJ. Toni and Greg enjoyed fishing, golfing, and casinos. They loved road trips and eating at hole in the wall restaurants. Throughout their life together, Toni worked overtime keeping Greg in line. Toni was a jigsaw puzzle master and enjoyed the sewing duties for her family and friends. Spending time with her husband, children, and grandchildren at all of their athletic and school events was her #1 priority. She had a kind heart and was a woman with great perspective. She had a knack of listening to the details and would never hesitate to call it like it was. She loved to have fun and laugh even if it were at her own expense. Toni worked various jobs, including working alongside Greg at the Alva and Laverne Co-op’s before landing at the Custer City Bank. She spent the last 25 years of her career as the Farm Bureau county secretary in both Perry and Kingfisher until her retirement. Toni was grateful for the friendships she made with her coworkers as well as the greatest clients during her career. Toni is survived by her husband, Greg Bender; daughter, Laci Kavanagh and husband Brian and their children, Brayden, Brycen, and Briarleigh; son, BJ Bender and wife Kari and their children, Hattie and Titan; brother, Mike Pflieder and wife Danelle; sister, Michelle McMurphy and husband Travis; uncle, Dale Dunningan; honorary son, Loren Smith; and numerous, nieces, nephews, cousins, and friends. A come and go celebration of life will be held May 28, 2022, from 1:00 p.m. – 4:00 p.m. at the Women’s Building at the Kingfisher Fairgrounds. In lieu of flowers the family asks that you share a memory or your favorite story of Toni with them.